The pinnacle of sexual relations between a man and a woman is intercourse, culminating in orgasm. While almost every man experiences orgasm, for women it's significantly more complicated: only one in four experiences pleasure, and of the remaining women, about half experience orgasm frequently, about a third rarely, and the rest never.
Lack of orgasm (anorgasmia) should be distinguished from frigidity.
Frigidity refers to a lack of interest in sex: erogenous zones are insensitive, and intercourse is indifferent. With anorgasmia , a woman is aroused and experiences some pleasure during intercourse, but the final phase—orgasm—is absent.
Only recently have men begun to pay close attention to the female orgasm, considering it a confirmation of their masculine worth. However, since ancient times, Indian and Chinese philosophies have considered female satisfaction to be one of the most important factors in a harmonious relationship. The prevailing view was that men were to blame for a woman's lack of orgasm.
“To increase women's sexual arousal, men were encouraged to approach lovemaking creatively, vary positions, use additional tools, watch pornography, resort to role-playing, and use various pharmaceuticals, from Spanish fly to yohimbine. Male lovers became more passionate about ensuring women reached orgasm than about experiencing pleasure themselves. And the harder the men worked, the more difficult it became for women, who felt obligated to produce the expected moans, otherwise both partners would face a sleepless night. Faking orgasm became a necessary part of sexual etiquette,” says Germaine Greer, a writer, scholar, and television presenter, one of the most significant feminists of the 20th century.
However, as further research has shown, the role of men in a woman's achievement of orgasm is somewhat exaggerated. Psychogenic factors play a very significant role in sexual problems: an unsuitable environment, domestic and work-related problems, fear of pregnancy, and much more—in other words, “a woman's inability to surrender.”
During sexual intercourse, a large amount of hormones is released into the blood and the pelvic organs fill with blood.
During orgasm, contractions of the perineal muscles cause a blood flow, and the woman's body returns to normal within 15-20 minutes. Without orgasm, hormone-rich blood slowly leaves the pelvic organs (over an hour or two), leading to the development of various mastopathy, fibroids, and other conditions.
Gynecologists say that a significant percentage of their patients are women suffering from anorgasmia.
Lack of orgasm adversely affects the nervous system. Most often, nervous agitation or depression, poor health, and a depressed state after intercourse appear. Neuroses and hysterical reactions, migraines, irritability, and depression occur.
Any action must be carried out to its logical conclusion. Sexual arousal must culminate in orgasm. If a computer doesn't complete a task, it will either freeze or reboot, but a woman is not a computer; she can't reboot, and constant freezing will lead to serious health problems.
A woman must learn to feel her body. The basic rule is, “When undressing, cast aside all shame.” A woman must be able to make a man feel her desire. After all, the man plays a major role, and he must be sensitive to his beloved and understand what she wants. Sex should be harmonious. A woman must understand that only she can bring pleasure to both her man and herself.
By the way : “The results of a survey conducted by scientists from the USA and Norway showed that men over 50 are more satisfied with their sex life compared to those in their thirties.”
Men! Take care of women, the source of our pleasures!
Literature:
“Women should enjoy sex” (The Times, UK);
Germaine Greer, January 10, 2003;
“Impotence” by L.Ya. Milman