Moreover, men suffer the least from this dress code. They seem to even feel sorry for them – they are allowed to come to the wedding simply in the right way: a white shirt and black pants or a suit of a universal, decent color. But the bride's girlfriends often become the objects of “retribution”…
When I receive a wedding invitation with mandatory dress requirements at the whim of the bride, it's easier for me to refuse to participate than to choose an outfit according to someone else's order. Because…
…these things will most likely just stay in the closet
…useless junk. I don't understand why you can't just come to someone's wedding in a sheath dress, for example. You can then wear that dress somewhere else. Seriously! The world has long demanded conscious consumption, and here brides with their “must have a floor-length dress, all in sequins, so that all my girlfriends shine and sparkle.”
…these things may not match my idea of beauty
…the fashionable tradition of forcing all girlfriends to wear clothes of a certain color is especially annoying. And it's not about just being, say, conventionally blue – no! Definitely two tones darker than a forget-me-not at dawn. And don't forget to send me a good quality photo of the outfit in the midday sun, so that I can make sure that you all look exactly the same in the photos.
But these brides seem to forget that somewhere abroad, this tradition implies that it is the bride who should worry about choosing the fabric, finding a tailor for the guests, and paying for all the expenses for her whim.
Also, for some reason, few brides worry that the chosen color may not suit each of her bridesmaids. Or the style of the dresses, for example, will emphasize all the flaws of the guest's figure. Of course, the main beauty at the wedding should be the bride, but this does not mean that her guests should silently wear something that they absolutely do not like and does not suit…
…these things can be very difficult to find
My friend and I were invited to a wedding once. Everyone was told to come in Tiffany color. You have no idea how hard it was to find anything in that color when fuchsia and purple were all the rage.
As a result, we looked at a bunch of different options in shades of “no, not that green”, “this is really some kind of blue”, “better lighter”, “no, one tone darker”. And finally we found an outfit that exactly met the requirements of the hostess of the evening. But then it turned out that the bride did not approve of this look either, because she wants to see everyone in dresses of this shade. In dresses!
…these things can be uncomfortable
There should always be an opportunity to adjust an outfit at the last moment. For example, we were getting ready to go to a wedding in early May. Two months before that, we received the bride's wishes: both girls and boys – in suits. Pants, shirts and definitely jackets. In March, this seemed normal: there are no requirements for color, suits are always needed in the wardrobe, and in early May it is usually cool. We threw a coat on the suit – and went ahead, congratulate the newlyweds. Stylish, convenient, comfortable.
Only that May turned out to be anomalous and pleased with the heat of more than +30 degrees. Walking in the same costumes under the scorching sun and showing a joyful smile in the photo was a real test. It would seem… why didn't the hostess of the holiday show hospitality? Well, your guests will be in the photo in different clothes – what's so scary about that? But in the pictures they will really be with sincere joy, and not with the tense grimace of a person who was put in the desert in a fur coat and asked to smile.
The bride insisted. It's her holiday! She was already dreaming about what photos she would have after the wedding! And after that holiday, I thought: “To hell with it, and celebrate in whatever clothes you want. Even in floor-length dresses, even in a bikini with a sombrero. And I want to go to the wedding of adequate people. Those who are happy for their guests regardless of the style and color of their outfit.”
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